First let's start with a very brief outline of my life: You know that "Monday's child is fair of face" nursery rhyme? I was born on a Wednesday. "Wednesday's child is full of woe." I also relate to Thursday's child because I still feel I have far to go. As a kid, I distinctly remember wishing to die. Sad but true. College was intense. I really liked it but there were many days I felt like crying and did. Marriage-love it. Motherhood-that is a great way to discover personal flaws in depth. ENOUGH! I'm not going to whine all day and I really don't want to re-live every sorrowful moment.
A few years ago, Chris (dh) and I discussed the "tools" that we have used dealing with our own little "pit[s] of despair" [name that movie]. I sketched the ideas and then we put them in a frame and hung it on the wall where we can see them on a regular basis. Just as reminders, when needed.
For the next 11 days, I'm going to add those tools and sketches on this blog. I'm posting them one day at a time to give people a chance to think about and try out the concept. Eleven might be too much at once to remember and might be overwhelming. And if any of these tools can help anyone at all, I'm glad.
I'm not in college any more...yay...so when I made the sketch, I put some other ideas in little pics so I could easily pick out something if/when needed. I can barely read my sketching so those ideas are: bike, read, cook, hike, send a letter, phone someone (that's an old-fashioned phone because I didn't think I could draw a cell phone well enough to get the concept across. I'd be asking myself, "Why do I have a rectangle in the drawing?"), write, exercise, sing or dance or play music, color, sweep or mop or do a chore (I'm pretty sure I wasn't trying to draw a hockey stick since I don't play hockey; it could be a paint brush), play a game (those pair of dice are not to tell me to go out and gamble; I do not need to bring in a bad habit to replace a negative emotion), plant something, take a nap. (sometimes sleeping is helpful but not all day, everyday).
I didn't add hours of TV watching, internet surfing, or cell phone app playing because those types of things just make me feel worse.
So that's it: Tool #1 is DO SOMETHING.
If you have an activity that helps you that's not in the sketch, please mention it. Every little bit helps.
*"pit of despair" that's from the movie The Princess Bride. We like movie quotes. Some of them amuse us and sometimes they help us.